A Mother's Boutique and Annee Matthew Review and Giveaway

Getting pregnant and having a baby does all kinds of things to your body.  Most of which your wardrobe is not prepared for.  I had such a fun time dressing my bump, that I kind of forgot about what I was going to wear after the baby was born.  I was so unprepared that I almost didn't want to leave the house those first two weeks because I had no nursing bras and no nursing friendly shirts or dresses.  I had found that I could wear 2 stretchy v-neck t-shirts that would get the job done but that would be hot and uncomfortable come summer.  Not to mention it was a lot of fabric to manipulate when you had a hungry baby waiting for his meal.  I needed to get myself clothes.  If not for the functionality aspect but for the fact that I needed to feel good about myself again.  I had known there was a store near me that sold nursing wear, but it was a little bit of a drive.  I decided one weekend to make the hour drive to A Mother's Boutique to do some shopping.  This store had everything that I needed!  When I got home I was so excited to use all my new clothes.  They made nursing in public so much easier.  I had also realized that everything that I picked out was from one line...Annee Matthew.  You are able to shop this line and many more at A Mother's Boutique online or in an actual brick and mortar store.  I love to support a Pittsburgh based business so I thought it was great to shop locally for such a specific item.

Annee Matthew carries a line of nursing wear that will make you feel more young professional and less frumpy mom.  I am able to wear these pieces out with my friends, out with my family or to work and they fit the occasion all the same.  Dresses are extremely hard to make work if they were not made to be specifically nursing friendly.  The first dress that I bought from Annee Matthew at Mother's Boutique was the Marne Maxi Dress. 

This dress features a pull to the side nursing access point.  There is an invisible slit in the middle of the dress that allows for you to keep fabric over the top of your breast while allowing amble room for your baby to feed.  As you will see, when you buy clothes that are made for nursing, nursing in public is no longer an issue because you able to discreetly feed your baby.

For everyday wear, I bought the Shrug Criss Cross Tunic.  This has empire nursing access that allows you to lift the fabric right under the breast to allow your baby to feed.  The layered style on the top is very slimming as well, which is much needed after baby.  Just about all of Annee Matthews line as well as most of what is carried at A Mother's Boutique is made to take you through pregnancy and well into your nursing days.

Since I was so in love with this line, Annee Matthew, with A Mother's Boutique sent me the Charlene Tube Dress to try as well.  When you think of nursing wear, you may not think that anything strapless is ideal.  I am here to tell you this dress is very comfortable and functional   When I tried this dress, I took a chance and went braless with just nursing pads.  My nursing pads stayed in place and the dress was extremely supportive.  Not only can this be worn as a dress, you can also wear it as a skirt!  Two piece of clothing in one!

Although most strapless dresses would just have you pull them down to feed, this features empire waist access that makes nursing virtually undetectable   Here I am nursing from both sides...Can you tell?

This is made possible by how the dress lifts up.  There are slits to allow access to either side that are hidden under the rouched layer of the dress.

If you are nursing or pregnant and plan to nurse, I urge you to not wait to buy clothes to make your life easier.  It will make a huge difference in your comfort level and your nursing relationship with your little one.  You can head over to A Mother's Boutique online to purchase some new gear or you can enter to win your own Charlene Tube Dress below!  Perfect addition to your summer wardrobe.  Don't forget to check out Annee Matthew and A Mother's Boutique on Facebook.

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Toot You Horn Tuesday 6/25/13

Hi All! Today I am starting Toot Your Horn Tuesday.  Cheesy? Yes!  But since I have become a new mom I have realized that sometimes the mom gets forgotten in the whole mess of laundry, diapers, and babyness (new word right there).  I want all of us to be able to tell the world what we accomplished this week.  It can be something as small as cooking dinner for your family or something as big as reaching your breastfeeding goal.  It could be baby, family or the best you related, doesn't matter. Write a post with pictures and link it up.  Then go visit everyone else's post and spread some love because you know we all need it.  

When I was thinking about going back to work I was naturally very nervous.  With an exclusively breastfed baby I had to make sure that there was enough milk to feed him while I was gone.  The week before I went back I had about 20oz in the freezer which is the equivalent of nothing.  I was in a wedding and I wasn't even sure that I could feed him for the two days that I would be gone about 6 hours each day.

I will have been back to work for a month on Thursday and I now have close to 200 oz save up!  This takes a huge burden off of me.  If I need to go shopping for sec, Dufda can feed Nugget.  If something happens and I can't get home, there is extra milk in the freezer.  It is a really great feeling.

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Hi All! Tomorrow I am starting Toot Your Horn Tuesday.  Cheesy? Yes!  But since I have become a new mom I have realized that sometimes the mom gets forgotten in the whole mess of laundry, diapers, and babyness (new word right there).  I want all of us to be able to tell the world what we accomplished this week.  It can be something as small as cooking dinner for your family or something as big as reaching your breastfeeding goal.  It could be baby, family or the best you related, doesn't matter. Write a post with pictures and link it up tomorrow.  Then go visit everyone else's post and spread some love because you know we all need it.  

One Year Ago Today...

One year ago today I found out I was pregnant.  Looking back I realized that I have never told the story here.  Dufda and I had taken our honeymoon, 8 months after we were married, to Jordan.  I had never met his family or knew where he came from.  We knew that this would be the month we would start trying to get pregnant.  The plan was that Dufda would stay in Jordan to be with his family, while I returned home to go back to work.  After an awful day of traveling by myself I made it home June 23, 2012.  That next day I went to the grocery store to pick up some essentials because I had not been home in so long.  I decided I would grab a pregnancy test while I was there.  They were buy one get one free, but I didn't realize until I was up at the register.  I figured I would test my luck and hope that I didn't need the free one.  When I got home it was 8pm.  You are suppose to wait till the morning to test, but I figured I would give it a go.  I was pregnant (obviously, or we wouldn't be here)!  Since it was 8 o'clock here, it was in the middle of the night in Jordan and I couldn't get a hold of Dufda.  I kept calling and leaving him messages but knew he wouldn't get them till morning.  When he finally woke up, he seemed so unsurprised.  I was very excited that although he could not be with me at that moment, that he was able to tell him family that morning.  Apparently his mother knew too.  It would be 4 more weeks before I would get to see Dufda.  I can't even describe the feeling waiting in the airport.  I wanted to hug and squeeze him so bad.  Mostly because I missed him terribly, but also because we never got to be excited together and partly because I wanted to inflict some pain on him missing the beginning of my morning sickness. It is amazing to think back just one year ago and how different things were.  

So what would I tell that girl in the picture...Most would think it would be to sleep because you are never going to again (I say that in the most sarcastic voice ever).  That wouldn't be it all.  I actually wouldn't tell her anything, well maybe that Nugget is a boy so she could have shopped earlier.  I think that being naive about the whole experience is the best way to be.  I believe that it was the reason I was able to survive day to day through the pains of pregnancy.  I believe it is the reason I was able to birth with fear.  I also believe it was the reason that this no longer exists:

If you missed the post on me giving up my closet for the sake of baby, you can read it here.  

One year ago today; I knew nothing about car seat safety, SIDS risks, cloth diapers, breastfeeding, or what this little being would do to my life.  I knew that it would all be wonderful, though.  This morning, as I am pumping before going work.  This  little man was just laughing with me the entire time.

Its hard to believe in just a year how much your life has changed.  How you don't' really miss your walk in closet and all your clothes, because your baby has the most awesome nursery there is.  How little sleep you are able to survive on, not because you can't sleep, but because when your baby sleeps you would just rather stare at how amazing they are.  How natural being a parent is.  How much this little man has changed your relationship with your husband.  And how we made it through the craziest year of our lives.  We have been to Jordan and back twice!  I have survived throwing up more than I ever hope to in my life.  There were 3 different trips to the emergency room, none of which to birth a baby.  There were plenty of wedding and luckily no funerals.  I have made wonderful new mom friends to share the whole experience with.

Today will be a normal day, no one outwardly celebrates the day they found out they were pregnant.  I will go to work and later meet Dufda for Nugget's 4 month appointment.  We will then go through our new routine as Nugget's parents. But for me, it is just as special as a birthday, because for Dufda and I that day was the moment our entire lives changed.

What? They didn't tell you you would go bald?

This new gig that we all entered into, some willingly, some mistakenly it will change us.  It also is our ticket into the mom club where all these moms new this bad stuff happens to you, but no one wants to tell anyone. Why? You ask.  Because some of the stuff that happens to you as a new mom is just ridiculous and down right cruel.  I told you about my lovely experience as a pregnant lady here. Now it's time to dive into  postpartum.

So you just gave birth.  Everyone wants to see this wonderful bundle of joy.  No doubt, people will come over unannounced, unless you are like us and put the lock down on visitors.  Why did I say no visitors?  You have just handed me a stranger that is suppose to live with us....for the next 18 years+ and we have no idea what he likes yet.  Give us a sec to get things in order before you come knocking on my door with vegetarian lasagna so you can "help" us.  Second, I have now added maxi pads the size of Montana to my wardrobe, that paired with the fact that I need to be near naked to feed my baby just doesn't really make for an inviting scene for guests.

Ahhhh, feeding your baby.  How many times have you heard that if it hurts you are doing it wrong.  I swear this is what they tell first time mothers to try to increase the people who try breast feeding.  I romanticized my breastfeeding relationship with my baby.  It was all I wanted to do the moment he came out.  I was so happy that he latched right on.  Flash forward 27 hours later and I am screaming for a pacifier, the same pacifier I swore I wouldn't give my child because the same people who told me that breastfeeding didn't hurt scared the living day lights out of me that if I gave a paci or a bottle my baby would never latch on again.  I think, no I know that the people who created nipple confusion were men, the same men who do not want to give a bottle or have to figure out why their baby is fussing...just give them to person with the nipples.  Well, you may be o.k with being a human pacifier but I say Soothies all around.

Another great thing that comes along with the wonders of breastfeeding...breast milk...everywhere.  I smelled like breast milk mostly because I only had 2 nursing tanks and couldn't motivate myself to leave the house to purchase more.  My bed smelled like breast milk because breastfeeding is a messy dance at first and your nipples have turned into Old Faithful.

 I remember snuggling with Dufda and realizing that he, too, smelled like breast milk.  EVERYTHING SMELLED LIKE BREASTMILK.  It went great with the lingering smell of amniotic fluid from having my water break all over the kitchen.  

Motherhood is messy.  I never really feel clean anymore.  The second I get out of the shower, Nugget will want to nurse and rub his slimy little hands all over me and there went my cleanliness.   There is also the joy of having your baby spit up right down your shirt just so that is pulls in your cleavage.  I know this has happened to you.  Or when you have your baby flying like an airplane over your head and they spit up right in your mouth.  You know you are a mom if going bra less/nursing pad less is a daring feat.  I do this and I know I will wake up being one sticky breastmilk covered mess.  Naked...that's really the only way to stay clean.  And naked is what you need to be when you fall asleep after having a baby because those night sweats are no joke.  When I stood up, it looked like a crime scene with my body print left in the bed.

Let's talk about that bed.  Do you have some fancy schmancy bed set that you got for your wedding.  Put it away now.  Babies and down feathers don't mix.  You need about ten sets of sheets and a waterproof mattress cover to contain the mess these little ones make.  You may have all these sheets to change them out, but you know that there have been times when you baby has peed/spit on your bed and you have covered it up/moved over and continued sleeping.  It's gross but we all do it.

Another wonderful thing to be scared about as a mom - Sneezing in Walmart.  When I feel that sneeze coming on, my stomach sinks and I say to myself, "Please don't pee yourself, Please don't pee yourself."  You stop concentrate real hard and let that sneeze out, yep life is wonderful being 27 and not knowing when you will pee yourself next.

Now onto that new matronly motherly bod you have.  I made it my whole pregnancy without any stretch marks.  I didn't slather myself in oil or rub lotion on my belly everyday.  I thought I was super human, not only was I making a baby but my skin was super elastic as well.  Two days post partum...what do you know, stretch marks everywhere!  Don't brag that you don't have them because they will come and get you and make sure that you never wear a bikini again.

Nugget is now 3 months old and I am going bald. That is right...bald.  What no one told you that along with that extra 20lbs you can't lose, the giant maxi pads that you are wearing, the fact that you may pee your pants at any moment that you will also go bald.  Post partum hair loss is no joke.  If I don't brush my hair 10 times a day I start to mat like my Great Pyrenees when she is shedding her winter coat.  I like to call this time frame - I Think There Is a Bug on Me.  I am constantly swatting at my arm to kill said bug only to find out it is another strand of hair.

I am sure there are many more great things that new motherhood will bring, but for now I totally accept that I may never be clean again and my little Nugget has completely changed my life...for the better obviously. 

Cloth is cool!

Dioxins...Sodium Polyacrylate...Tributyl-tin...Volatile Organic Compounds...What do all of these things have in common?  Well, they are all things that could be present in the disposable diaper that 95% of parents dress their baby's bum in.  You do not need a chemistry degree to know that these things aren't good.  No, I am not here to bust your chops for putting your baby in disposables.  I just want to tell you why my family decided that cloth is best for our little nugget.

When I found out I was pregnant, Dufda and I both realized that we had never changed a diaper before.  I also was not even familiar with modern day cloth.  Entering into the world of babies you will be surprised what you learn.  I did know that everyone tells you that diapers are expensive.  So, while most of America could careless about what we put in or on our bodies, I know a lot of you do care about where your money is going.  Let's look at what someone spends on disposables, usually.  Now I know there are coupons and sales, but really, if you are out of diapers you just have to go buy them.  It is thought that over 2 years you will average 7 diaper changes per day.  Now we all know that there are way more at the beginning, but for the sake of calculation we will stick with this number. It comes out to about $35/ month for diapers.  You most likely have some sort of disposal system, let's say the great ole' Diaper Genie.  There is an upfront cost of $30.  Now that bugger needs refills which are about $7/piece.  That is about $1100 over 2 years for diapers.  In the little time we used disposables, I had some that tore, that got peed on accidentally before they even were on the bum, and not to mention the increase in laundry because disposable do not even touch cloth diapers when it comes to blow outs.  Also, so you plan to have more than one child...you have to do this all over again.

Now on to cloth.  This is what I hear from everyone.  Don't you have so much laundry to do?  What do you do with the poop?  They are so expensive?  I will start with the last statement first.  I chose to use mostly second hand diapers.  Now if this sound gross to you, I assure you that there is a huge market for used diapers and plenty of ways to clean them.  I scoured ebay and bought an enormous lot of Bumgenius 3.0 pocket diapers for $3.85/diaper.  This is obviously a great deal, but you have 10 months to search for great prices.  I actually bought 110 diapers at this price.  I then sold off the diapers that I did not need for a profit.  This actually paid for the diapers that I did keep to use.  You'll need two wet bags to put the dirty diapers in, this is about $36.  Your water bills might be a little higher, but that is it.  We are 100% cloth, so we use cloth wipes as well.  I got a whole bunch of baby wash cloths for my shower, spray a little water or wipe spray on that and you need one wipe per change. 

As for the poop.  This is everyone's concern.  The reality is that you aren't suppose to throw human feces in the trash anyway.  It should all go down the toilet.  While my baby is exclusively breastfed this is not a worry either way.  Breast milk poo is water soluble.  Just throw it right in the washer.  I never have to touch the diapers after I take them off Nugget.  When he starts solids, we will do a quick plop in the toilet and be done with it.

How much laundry does cloth really add?  Well, how much laundry does having a baby really add?  Let's be serious, babies are messy.  My washer and I are bffs now.  I wash diapers every other day and typically not on the weekends.  This will be very dependent on how many diapers you have.  We have enough that I could go about 3 days and be fine, I just don't like my diapers to sit that long.  After being in cloth for 3 months, I decided to go ahead and "wash" the washing machine.  I found several pins on Pinterest that showed this nasty water that came out of their machines.  My water was completely clear.  All the extra cycles and better detergent are actually cleaning my machine, not making it more dirty.  Take that!

One of the great reasons to chose cloth is all the options.  I feel that disposables are sort of all the same.  I can pick a different diaper for when  I go out versus during the day and something else for at night.  This gives you the best chance of getting a really great absorbency and fit for what your needs are.  We had a great cloth diaper store here in Pittsburgh that you could go and touch and feel the options, but they have since moved to cloth orientations only.  I never got to attend one of these but I have heard that they are very beneficial.  If you aren't in the Pittsburgh area to attend one of these, I would still head over to Happy Baby Company's website and see their selection.  They are a one stop shop for everything cloth and natural parenting.  Their customer service is superb, too!  Use the coupon code NEW2HBC for 10% off any order over $30.

What we use if we are going out:

AIO's (All-in-one)

This is basically how is sounds.  Everything you need in one diaper.  It makes for a simple change while you are on the go.  Although these are easy, I typically wouldn't grab for them while at home because they have some disadvantages.  AIO's take along time to dry, specially cause I line dry anything that has PUL in it, or a waterproof aspect.  They also aren't as absorbent as some other options because the absorbency can't be adjusted.  My favorite AIO is the newborn simplex from Swaddlebee.  This diaper fits up to 16lbs, so it is much more versatile than most newborn diapers.

What Dufda uses during the day:

Pocket Diapers

Husbands may have a hard time getting use to cloth.  I know the simpler the better with Dufda.  He prefers Bumgenius 3.0 pocket diapers.  I stuff these for him before hand, so it is more like an AIO.  You can see below, the diaper opens up in the back and you put in the insert.

The downfall to these is that they can get pretty bulky depending on what you use to stuff them with.  They hold all the moisture away from the skin though making for a drier feel for your baby.  I also like the Fuzzibunz One size elite for a pocket diaper.

What we use at night:

Fitteds and covers

When we first put Nugget in cloth, we were able to diaper him the same at night because he woke up every two hours.  Now that he is sleeping longer stretches we needed a good solution for maximum absorbency.  A fitted diaper is many layers of absorbent material that needs a cover to make it waterproof.  

They are typically bulky, but they sure do their job.  You can cover a fitted with a typical diaper cover or you can also use wool, which we just got into.  What makes me sad about fitteds is that they are so cute and then you have to cover them up, but definitely a highly absorbent diaper.

What I use during the day:

Prefolds and Covers

When I am diapering Nugget I always reach for a good ole' prefold and cover.  I prefer the Jellyroll fold closed with a Snappi.  Snappi provided me with their awesome diaper closer to show you how this small device will make cloth diapering so much easier. The Snappi does away with the pins that our parents and grandparents might have used if they did cloth.  If your baby is exclusively breastfed, then you know how hard it can be to contain that breastmilk poo.  This is by far the greatest fold to do that.  You start out by placing your baby on the prefold.

Next you will roll in the side of the prefold until you get to the center.

The tighter you roll, the trimmer your fit will be.  You will then take the piece you are holding and spread it out across you baby's tummy.

 

Then, grab your Snappi and hook it on the left tab of the diaper that is under your baby, next hook the right tab and then pull down and hook the center.

 

You then add a cover to this to make it completely waterproof.  Do you need a Snappi in your life?  Enter below to win one!

We have prefolds that Nugget has grown out of, which I can still use by laying in the cover and not using a Snappi.  I feel like either option is totally leak proof.  The only downfall, which I don't really consider that awful, you do need to change frequently with prefolds because the wetness is right up against their skin.  I have read, though that this prepares them to potty learn sooner and easier because they do not get use to being in a wet diaper.

Storing your cloth

As you can imagine, you need a great system to go with this style of diapering.  Being that Dufda is a stay at home dad, I need to make sure that everything is organized so he doesn't end up taking a  diaper that he doesn't know how to use.  I separate them into two categories: needs a cover and doesn't needs a cover.  Before I did this, Nugget ended up in a Lil' Joey and cover, but hey at least it wouldn't leak.  Dufda only really likes the bumgenius 3.0, so we have lots of them.  I stuff them and put them all on the bottom (He actually stuffed diapers the other day, now just to teach him how to wash them).  Everything I use is on top and he just stays away from that.

Before Nugget came, we almost didn't get a changing table.  I think this is a must if you are using cloth.  It gives you a space to sort everything out and also a place to be comfortable changing your dipes.   When we went on vacation, I was without a changing table for two weeks and my back was killing me!  

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My Jordanian Nugget goes to Jordan!

When I first met Dufda, my parents referred to him as geographically challenged.  I never really believed this till I had a baby.  I knew before Nugget was born that we would be taking him to Jordan very quickly.  I would never deprive him of meeting his grandparents, or them being able to see their grandchild as an infant.  Here was our journey:

First up, Nugget needs a passport.  I, of course, waited till the last possible moment to obtain this.  Baby passports are very similar to that of an adult passport.  You will need the picture taken in the right specification...not an easy feat with a 6 week old, you need to fill out the application and of course pay the full fee, but this passport is only good for 5 years, not the 10 the adult passport is good for.  To do this you need to wait for his birth certificate and social security card to come in.  When you go to apply, both parents need to be present.  Remember, they will be taking his original birth certificate from you.  If you are last minute like us, you will also need to pay the fee to expedite the passport.  This made his passport like $200!  Now you sit and wait and watch plane ticket prices rise because you can't buy anything without this little ones passport.  We ended up getting his passport after about 8 days after we applied.

Next we bought tickets! I have never bought plane tickets so close to flying.  We made the purchase on Thursday and left that next Tuesday.

What I found is that packing is not as bad as I led myself to believe.  As a new mom I care a lot less about what I look like.  I also have far less clothes that fit.  I put all of Nugget's stuff in a carry-on and Dufda and I were able to get off with just one bag.  Things that I kept in the diaper bag for immediate retrieval:

• diapers - lots!
• wipes
• changing pad
• extra onesie
• lots of pacis
• burp rag
• lap pads 

Navigating through the airport was a huge fear of mine.  We opted to wear Nugget versus taking a stroller.  Thank god we did because I did not have a free hand to push a stroller.  Security allowed us to keep him in the carrier through the scanner which made our lives easier, too.

The greatest item that I purchases was the Summer Infant Travel Bed! We had a 10 hour layover in New York and this gave Nugget a place to play and sleep.  It folds up and has space to put some belongings so we used this as Nugget's carry-on.  I put a blanket, diapers, toys, and a changing mat in here.  Another item that I was happy to have was disposable wash cloths.  You wet these and they are prefilled with baby soap for blow outs in the airport.  It also isn't a liquid so you don't have to worry about separating them going through check-points.

For the plane ride, everyone told us to make sure that we had a pacifier or boob to offer Nugget at take off and landing.  This was never a real issue and he did fine.  The hard part was that we boarded the plane when they called for passengers with small children and this put us sitting on the plane longer than anyone else.  The air conditioning was not turned on yet so Nugget started to freak out because he was over heated.  As soon as the plane started he was good.  I would wait if you have a baby that tends to be on the warmer side.  The key to a successful plane ride is having everything organized because you have so little space.  I kept a diaper, wipes and a changing pad out at all times because digging through everything was hard. 

When the plane starts to descend, really create a plan to deplane.  I made sure that Nugget was in the carrier and we had all of our belongings.  This made the exit much easier and got us out much quicker.  Being quick is key when you are flying somewhere that requires a trip through customs.  If you are slow you will end up at the end of the line.  Then you will end up with a baby that wants to eat/ be changed and you are stuck waiting for your visa.

The wait for luggage was awful and if I was going to do it again I would have just stopped before we even got there and fed Nugget so he would be happier.  Waiting takes on a whole new level of annoying when you have an infant.

Traveling with a 2 month old wasn't really that bad.  I actually got a lot of sleep on the airplane, which made the trip much easier.  Traveling around a foreign country with an infant was also pretty normal.  I definitely suggest babywearing and having lots of diapers with you.  I was told over and over again that it is easier to take them now than to wait.  This must be true because my baby was not one the screaming on the plane...it was the 1 and 2 year olds, oh what I have to look forward too.

There is a name for this?....I thought it was called I love my child

Attachment Parenting.  Why do they create and label things thus stereotyping individuals even further. 

I feel like we are exposed to our parents style of, well, parenting.  This usually consists of the ideas that the baby needs to cry it out, or at least cry for some period of time.  I have been told this is good for their lungs.  With this parenting style you are normally told that you don't want to hold your baby too much because it will spoil them.  Most of these babies were sent to the nursery after birth.  They were probably put in a crib by themselves the first night they were home.  While this was very common in our parents days, it still lives on...but not in my household.

I never needed someone to teach me to be a parent and frankly I don't need someone's help with my baby.  I had developed a way I would like to raise my child from what I believed.  I also make sure that when making a decision that it is what I feel is right and not what I am told is right.  For this reason, while I was giving birth no one was allowed in the room as a visitor who had previously given birth.  When we went home, no one was allowed to come to our house unless they were invited.  I wanted Dufda and I to be able to make mistakes and develop a parenting style that was right for us and not led by others information.  Yes, I may be stubborn.  Yes, my mother thinks I am crazy sometimes and other times flat out wrong.  

My family's style of parenting would be considered "Attachment Parenting" .  I hate that they have now created a name for this because it makes your parenting style "the latest trend", when in reality it is just what comes natural to you.

My bond with Nugget was formed immediately by him being placed on my bare chest the moment he was born.  He was never moved to do test or taken to a nursery so someone else could care for him.  This made breastfeeding very simple for us.  Breastfeeding was hard at the beginning, but now I am hooked.  I love the breastfeeding bond and even at just three months old, I get sad that one day he won't want to eat this way.

When we brought Nugget home, I could not fathom putting him in his nursery.  Yes, I had spent months preparing this room for him and made sure he had crib to sleep in, but why after carrying him around for 9 months would I want to away from him or him from me.  He doesn't.  We co-slept and bed shared because it felt right.  I don't like to sleep by myself so I couldn't imagine making my baby sleep by himself unless he chose to do so.

Babies love to be tight and close to you and this is why we babywear a lot.  Nugget will always nap when wrapped.  It also lets them see the world from your perspective which is a lot better than laying in a car seat or swing all day.  Babies that are worn cry 53% less than their counterparts that aren't.   And really, who doesn't love to have two hands free.

Speaking of crying...I would never let my baby cry it out.  If a baby cries it is because it needs something.  They lack the ability to manipulate you at this age.  Babies can also not self soothe until 4 months old.  To me, there is no reason for a baby to cry.  I, as his mother, can fix it.  I cringe when I here about parents letting their babies cry it out.  How awful to be a little human who can't talk and to learn that you only mode of communication is now being ignored.

Finally, I do not follow a set schedule nor should my child.  I will not force Nugget into something that he didn't lean towards on his own.  Nugget had essentially made his own schedule, but he is able to change it up whenever he needs to.  

I wish the world would stop telling us that we need to put our babies down, let them cry, don't nurse on demand, and stop spoiling them.  We just love our children and feel that this is best.

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All the things I never knew I needed

Registering for your baby is probably one of the most confusing things you will ever do.  I remember referring to list after list of what other people needed.  We went to Babies' R' Us and scanned away to our heart's content, but after Nugget arrived there was still things we didn't have and had no clue we needed.  Those first couple of weeks, Amazon prime and me became really good friends.  I am going to run down what I needed and why so that maybe you can prepare a bit better.

1.  Waterproof Mattress Protector.  13 days after Nugget was born I had a post-partum hemorrhage.  Thank god for this protector or I would have needed to buy a whole new mattress.  Not to mention babies pee, poop and do all kinds of things that you can't control...and they will do all these things in your bed.  Also, your boobs will leak...everywhere...all night...get the mattress protector. (All these items are in the store at the bottom of this post)

2.  Blessed Thistle, Fenugreek, Mother's Milk Tea.  I never even knew these things existed.  They all promote milk making.  Fenugreek also makes you smell like maple syrup but that is just a bonus.

3.  Post-Partum Binder.  Your stomach will be squishy from giving birth.  If you want to fit into any of your clothes again I suggest getting one of these.

4.  Nursing pads, Soothies, Earth Mama's Nipple Butter, and Thera-Pearls.  Everyone will tell you that if breastfeeding hurts you aren't doing it right.  I think this statement is misleading.  It does hurt because someone is sucking on your nipple...hard!  These all relieve my pain but I had to buy all of this after the fact because everyone told me there was going to be no pain.

5.  Summer Infant Forehead Strips.  I became a crazy temperature checker and although this won't be super accurate, it does give you an estimate and it is quick and easy.  This was just for my peace of mind.

6. Colic Calm, Gas Drops, Gripe Water and Saline Drops.  My poor nugget had bad gas when we first brought him home and would cry constantly.  We used the Colic Calm, gas drops and gripe water to fix that.  The saline drops are to go with the Nose Frida to suck those boogies out.  We also had some baby Tylenol on hand for after his circumcision.

7.  Zo-li  Buzz.  I thought if I was brave enough to push a baby out, I would for sure be brave enough to cut that little buggers nails...WRONG!  This may look like an overpriced nail file but I promise it has saved Nugget's fingers from being mutilated.

8.  Sleep Sheep.  I hate that we didn't have Mr. Sheep from the second we got home.  Nugget wouldn't nap and he hated his swing.  The moment this came in the mail I turned it on and he went right to sleep...for 3 hours!

The Sleep Sheep goes everywhere with us

9.  The Wub!  Wubbanubs run our household.  This little invention makes it so Nugget can not spit the paci half way across the room.  It also looks way cuter than a plain paci and doubles as a toy.

10.  The OBall.  When Nugget started to play with toys this was his favorite.  He is able to manipulate and grasp on to the ball since there are a ton of holes.  Can't you tell he loves it?!

11.  Nursing clothes.  This was a big one.  I had no nursing bras, tops, tanks, no nothing that I could leave the house in to feed the baby.  Make your life easy and get nursing gear.

12.  Look Look Book.  Just go to Amazon and buy this, you wont' regret it

13.  Brewer's Yeast and Flaxseed Meal.  To make lactation cookies obviously.  

14.  Sassy's Crib and Floor Mirror.  This along with Look Look have transformed tummy time into an enjoyable experience.

15.  Wearable Blankets.  We all know blankets are a SIDS risk, I just didn't think to purchase any before hand.  Add these to your registry so you have them on hand.

16.  Drain cover.  You will lose your hair and it will come out in hand fulls.

17.  Coffee Machine.  If you don't drink coffee already, you will most likely need to.  I would go for the programmable one so your brew is ready without having to think about it.
 

Yay! It's Friday...Oh wait, I'm a mom

Sleeping in, going out with friends, staying in bed all day, no work or real responsibilities.  That is why I looked forward to Fridays...before I was a mom.  I would count down starting on Monday, just waiting for Friday.  Don't get me wrong...I still do this, but now for totally different reasons.

When I had Nugget and started my glorious 3 month long maternity leave, everyday was like a Saturday to me.  I waited for the weekend so that Dufda would be home with me and we could hang out as a family.  Friday sort of lost its importance. 

Then I returned to work.

Friday now means that I get to not be strapped to a pump 4-5 times a day.  I don't have to worry about consuming all this extra fenugreek, blessed thistle and mother's milk tea.  I no longer get to sleep in...in fact I doubt I will ever sleep in again.  My work doesn't end, it just changes.  But Friday does me that I get to spend all day with this little guy and that makes the whole week worth it.

Are you excited it is Friday?

I will never...

I think everyone always has those things that they say they would never do as a parent.  I have really tried to keep mine to a minimum because I know that you have to go with the flow.  I love to hear childless people spout off their "I will never's" though.  Some of mine have stuck and some were thrown out the window completely.  

I will never give my child a pacifier:

My baby will sleep in a crib:

I wouldn't have a character/theme nursery:

Some of the ones that have stuck:  I won't put my baby in daycare, I will not feed him solids before six months, I will not formula feed my baby, and I will not have any drugs during childbirth.

What are some of your "I will never"  when it comes to children?  Did you keep them or break them?

Look how much I've grown!

Is it bad to say it felt like 6 years because that is the honest truth.

So Nugget is 3 months old!  Can you believe it?1  I know I can't.  

How much does Nugget weigh: 15 lb

What size clothes is Nugget wearing?  He consistently in 3-6 months, a lot of 6 months and some 6-9 months.

How much does mommy weigh?!  I am down to 130, not quite where I would like to be, but oh well.

What has Nugget learned this month?  Nugget plays with toys now.  I have taught him to smile when I ask him who the cutest baby in the world is...because it is obviously him.  He is also much better at tummy time and will start to roll over soon.

What adventures did Nugget go on this month?  Nugget got to meet his grandparents in Jordan and that is where he spent the first half of the month.  When he got home he got to meet a bunch of my cousin's.   This month was also when Dufda assumed the role as primary caregiver and I went back to work. 

Nugget's Favorite Things?  Wubbanubs, his hands, taggies blanket, getting a bath, and his OBall.